“If, like Shelby and Sean, you fancy being married by someone who’s stood by your relationship since the start, you’re in luck. For a nominal fee, anyone can be ordained online in a matter of minutes. In addition to marriage license paperwork, in California, there are only two requirements to make your ceremony official: a declaration of intent (your “I do’s”) and a pronouncement (“I now pronounce you partners for life”). The rest — readings, songs, unity rituals, vows — is entirely up to you.
After two postponements, an informal ceremony with a justice of the peace, and a baby, Shelby and Sean finally tied the knot the way they originally intended to at The O’Donnell House in Palm Springs. Comedian Andrew Santino officiated. “Andrew has been one of Sean’s best friends for the last 13 years, and he and his wife are a big part of our life,” Shelby says. “They have seen us from the very beginning of our relationship, so that meant a lot to us to have someone who witnessed our loving blossoming. He’s also a stand-up comedian, so we knew he would be comfortable speaking.”
No matter who your officiant is, communicate your vision and provide parameters and/or a script. “Originally, we gave Andrew a script and told him he could add some of his own color at the very beginning,” Shelby says. “We ended up letting Andrew be looser with the script, and he did an amazing job.”
In the event your BFF isn’t a stand-up, Santino offers some basic advice to pass along to your officiant…”